Hold onto each other and reach round the misunderstandings….
Sometimes, it feels just too hard to hold onto the good in a relationship for what has come in through the backdoor - irresolvable conflicts, differing values, past traumas, misunderstandings, withdrawals, silences, no go areas, affairs, financial pressures. There can be many reasons why a couple loses sight of shared hopes and values.
Couple therapy gives you one hour a week to hold onto where there is help to unpack what stands in the way of your couple flourishing…. it is a chance to really listen to yourself and to find the words to be heard and understood by your partner. And, to listen and understand what your partner wants you to know about them. Building and living in a couple is like building and living in a boat - anything that can be done to make it more seaworthy helps all that sail in her - the couple, any children, financial stability, joint ventures.
Sometimes the joint venture is to separate and even then, communication and understanding can make the process less painful, less damaging. Each member of the couple can be helped towards finding a stable end and to understand what the ending means to them, so that it does not contaminate life going forwards.
